Could being authentic actually attract the right people to me?

Mar 1

What If Speaking My Mind Actually Deepens My Connections?

As Projectors, we long to be seen, yet we hesitate. We crave recognition, yet we hold back. We’ve been conditioned to believe that visibility is a risk—that if we speak up, we might be rejected, misunderstood, or dismissed.

But here’s the truth:

🔹 Being quiet to avoid rejection doesn’t protect you—it only hides your brilliance.

So today, I invite you to shift your perspective.

Why Do We Hold Back?

It’s not because we lack something valuable to say. It’s because of how our energy works.

Projectors are designed to be invited and recognized. Without that recognition, we may feel invisible or unappreciated, questioning whether our words even matter.

And then, there’s our aura. It penetrates deeply, seeing things that others don’t always see in themselves. That level of clarity is a gift—but it can also feel like a burden. When we share our insights, it can feel exposing, even intrusive, as if we’re revealing something others weren’t ready to face.

If we’ve experienced rejection before, we hesitate to speak again. And over time, that hesitation turns into a pattern.

If we aren’t seen for who we truly are, bitterness creeps in. We begin to associate speaking up with being dismissed, ignored, or misunderstood. And so, we stay quiet—not because we don’t have wisdom to share, but because we’ve been conditioned to believe that our wisdom isn’t welcome.

The Fear of Being Seen

Conditioning runs deep. We live in a world that rewards energy, action, and productivity—qualities that aren’t at the core of how Projectors operate. So we learn to suppress our natural way of guiding. We wonder:

💭 Should I try to keep up?
💭 Should I initiate?
💭 Should I push myself into spaces that don’t feel aligned?

But the more we do that, the more we disconnect from our true power.

Even when we want to be seen, stepping into visibility can feel unnatural. We long to be recognized, yet we resist the spotlight. This creates an internal conflict—we want to be heard, but we fear what comes with being truly seen.

There’s another layer to it—our very design.

Projectors are naturally focused on the other. We are here to see deeply into people, to guide, to recognize patterns and potential in those around us. But when we turn that focus inward, it can feel unfamiliar, even disorienting. It’s like trying to use a telescope in reverse—everything feels distant and unclear.

Because we rely on recognition, our sense of self is often shaped by how others see us. If we don’t receive the right feedback, if we aren’t affirmed in the way we need, we can feel unmoored, unsure of who we truly are.

This is why self-promotion can feel unnatural.

Talking about ourselves, putting ourselves forward—it doesn’t always come easily. And when we do, we may find ourselves second-guessing:

❓ Did I say too much?
❓ Should I have stayed quiet?

Even receiving recognition can feel unfamiliar. We’re so used to supporting and guiding others that when the attention turns to us, we don’t always know what to do with it. Instead of fully receiving it, we deflect, redirect, shift the focus back to the other person—because that’s what we know.

The Truth About Speaking Your Mind

🔹 Your voice is a guidepost.

Speaking your mind isn’t about being liked—it’s about being recognized by the right people. When you share your truth, you naturally call in those who resonate with your energy. The right people won’t just listen—they’ll feel what you’re saying.

Hiding your brilliance doesn’t serve anyone—not you, and not the people who need your guidance.

Your words are meant to be heard. Your insights are meant to be shared.

And the people who are ready for them? They will recognize you.

So trust that. Trust yourself. Speak. Let yourself be seen. Because the ones who are meant to hear you—they will.

What If Speaking My Mind Draws the Right People?

💡 I trust that my words will reach the right people.
💡 Every time I express my truth, I align with the best invitations.
💡 Being seen is not a risk—it’s an opportunity.

You don’t have to push. You don’t have to force recognition.

You just have to stand in your truth, share your wisdom when it feels right, and trust that the right people will see you.

The more you speak, the more you align with the invitations meant for you.

The more you allow yourself to be seen, the more the right people will recognize your gift.

Your Voice Is Necessary

You may feel like staying quiet keeps you safe. You don’t want to ruffle feathers, take up too much space, or say the wrong thing.

But can I tell you something?

🔹 You were designed to be seen. You were designed to be heard.

You don’t have to force it. You don’t have to push.

But what if—when you spoke, the right people leaned in?

What if the very thing you’ve been holding back is the key to unlocking the next level of connection, the next level of recognition?

The Right Invitations Can’t Find You If You’re Hiding

As a Projector, you don’t have unlimited energy to push your way into every conversation, to demand attention, to convince people of your worth.

That’s not your design.

But you are designed to be invited.

And how can you be invited if no one knows who you are?

So many Projectors hold back—afraid to say what they really think, afraid they’ll be misunderstood, afraid they’ll lose relationships if they don’t shape-shift to please.

But the truth is:

🔹 When you don’t share your real thoughts, when you don’t let your wisdom be seen, the wrong people stay.

And the right people?

The ones who would see you, value you, cherish your insight?

They walk right past—because they never even knew you were there.

I Know This Because I’ve Lived It

I spent years softening my message. Diluting my truth. Making it more palatable, more digestible.

I thought that if I could just say things the “right” way, I’d be accepted.

But then I realized—when I held back, the people who actually needed my guidance weren’t finding me.

So I stopped playing small. I started speaking my truth, in my voice, without shrinking.

And that’s when the right people started showing up.

So today, I invite you to speak. Share. Trust.

Your voice is not just valuable—it’s necessary.

Let yourself be seen. The ones who are meant to hear you will.

My Journey as a Projector Healer: Owning My Wisdom and Being Seen

For years, I hesitated to share what I really saw about healing.

As an acupuncturist, I’ve spent years studying how the body, emotions, and energy interact. I can sense patterns before they fully manifest. I see when someone is holding onto emotional pain that’s showing up as physical discomfort. But for a long time, I softened how I talked about it. I worried that if I spoke too openly about what I truly knew, people wouldn’t take me seriously.

So I diluted my message. I made things more palatable. I tried to fit into the wellness industry in a way that felt safe.

But deep down, I knew—I wasn’t showing up fully.

Then one day, I asked myself: If I keep hiding what I really know, how will the people who need me ever find me?

Choosing to Speak My Truth

So I made a decision. I stopped tiptoeing. I started speaking about healing the way I saw it.

I talked about how emotions store in the body. How energy shifts before symptoms appear. How true wellness comes from deep, internal alignment—not just from diet and exercise, but from healing at the root level.

At first? Some people didn’t get it. Some even walked away.

But then, the right people started showing up.

One client sat across from me and said, I’ve seen so many practitioners, but you’re the only one who actually sees what’s going on with me.

That moment changed everything.

I realized—when I fully own my wisdom, I don’t have to convince anyone. The right people just know. The right people feel it.

And when you step into who you truly are, the same will happen for you.

Projectors: Your Energy Is Designed to Be Recognized

The thing about Projectors is, we are not here to beg. We are not here to push.

When we try to force our way into the wrong rooms, we leave feeling drained. When we chase after people who don’t see us, we lose confidence. And after enough of those experiences, it becomes easier and easier to hide. To tell ourselves, Maybe I’m not meant to be seen. Maybe it’s safer to just stay small.

But can I tell you today? That’s not the truth.

You are meant to be seen, but you have to stand where the light can hit you.

That means speaking up, even when it feels uncomfortable. Refining your gift, even if you’re not sure who will notice. Trusting that when you show up fully, you will be recognized in time.

That’s exactly what happened with Isla.

The Designer Who Finally Stopped Pitching

Isla was an incredibly talented interior designer. She had a sharp eye for balance, for flow, for creating spaces that just felt right.

But for years, she didn’t trust it.

Instead of standing confidently in her vision, she spent her time chasing clients, discounting her work, bending her designs to fit what she thought people wanted.

How many of us have done that? How many of us have shrunk ourselves down, hoping that if we just make ourselves likable enough, people will see our worth?

But here’s what Isla realized—recognition doesn’t come from making yourself smaller. It comes from standing fully in your gift.

One day, exhausted and feeling unseen, she made a decision: I’m not going to chase anymore. I’m going to create exactly what I love, exactly how I see it, and trust that the right people will find me.

So she did.

She started showing her unique aesthetic. Speaking with confidence about why certain design principles mattered. She stopped trying to please everyone and simply shared what she knew to be true.

And within months? Clients started reaching out.

One of them said, I’ve been looking for someone like you. I love the way you see things. You just know what works.

And just like that, Isla realized—I never had to chase. I just had to be seen for who I truly am, and the right people would recognize me.

The Power of Owning Your Perspective

See, when you boldly own your wisdom, you shift the energy around you.

You are no longer just another voice in the crowd—you become the person people seek out.

That’s what happened with Isla, and that’s exactly what happened with Elliot too. His journey was different, but the lesson was the same: when you stop hiding, you become magnetic.

The Business Strategist Who Stepped Into the Spotlight

Elliot was a business strategist. A genius at seeing what’s broken in a company before anyone else even realized there was a problem.

But for years? He worked behind the scenes. He stayed small. He was afraid that if he really owned his brilliance, people would think he was arrogant.

Then one day, a mentor told him, Elliot, people don’t recognize you because you’re hiding. You have to show them what you see.

So he started sharing.

He posted insights online. He spoke up in meetings. He stopped waiting for people to ask for his expertise and instead started showing what he knew.

And within six months? His inbox was full.

By stepping into visibility, Elliot didn’t just get more opportunities—he became the kind of person people automatically turned to for answers.

The Truth in All These Stories

Projectors, you don’t have to convince people of your wisdom.

You don’t have to chase, push, or prove yourself.

But you do have to show up. You do have to stand confidently in what you see.

Because when you do? The right people will recognize you. The right invitations will come. And the success you’ve been waiting for will find you.

I believe and declare that when you stand fully in your truth, the Universe will align the right opportunities for you.

I believe and declare that your wisdom will be seen by those who are meant to see it.

I believe and declare that the more you trust yourself, the more invitations will flow your way.

The Right Invitations Will Find You

So many of us, as Projectors, struggle with being seen and heard.

We crave recognition, yet we hesitate. We want to share our insights, yet we hold back.

We wonder—what if speaking my mind actually deepens my connections with the right people?

The truth is, Projectors are designed to be recognized before stepping into our power.

But what happens when that recognition doesn’t come? What happens when we’ve been dismissed, overlooked, or told we’re "too much"?

We learn to shrink ourselves. We learn to wait in silence, hoping someone will notice.

But here’s the shift:

💡 Being quiet to avoid rejection doesn’t protect you—it only hides your brilliance from those who need it.

💡 Your voice is not a burden. It is a guidepost. It calls in those who are meant to hear you.

Yes, it might feel uncomfortable at first. But you were not designed to stay quiet.

Your insights are valuable, even if they challenge the status quo.

You don’t have to push to be seen. The right people will recognize you when you stand in your truth.

So today, I want you to step into these new affirmations: